My Family Is Not a ‘Second-Best Option’

To read this column on The Huffington Post, go to: http://huff.to/13Y55fP. I hadn’t known it until just this week, but Supreme Court Chief Justice John Roberts, President Ronald Reagan, singer Marie Osmond, actor Hugh Jackman, journalist…

Legalized Infant Abandonment Roils Europe; Where’s the Debate in the U.S.?

To read this column on The Huffington Post, go to: http://huff.to/13WOsN7. A colleague emailed me a few days ago to suggest that I listen to an NPR story headlined “Spread of Baby Boxes Alarms Europeans,” about…

Adoption in the Media: What Do Pregnant Women, Killers and Crying Babies Have in Common?

August 8, 2012 To read this column on The Huffington Post, go to: http://huff.to/RACl6J. When we don’t fully understand something, we’re prone to make mistakes when dealing with it. This not-very-profound truism popped into my head…

An Unnerving Reality: We’re Deporting Adoptees

May 29, 2012 To read this column on The Huffington Post, go to: http://huff.to/K9NYiR. Imagine that your daughter, whom you raised from infancy, was convicted of forgery. You certainly wouldn’t be surprised if she were prosecuted…

New Realities in the Extended Family: Who is the Woman Celebrating Thanksgiving with Your Next-Door Neighbors?

March 27, 2012 To read this column on The Huffington Post, go to:  http://huff.to/GV7pqq Adoption has been around, in one form or another, for a very long time; to get a sense of how long, please…

When Fox News, David Brock, Identity and Adoption Intersect: Where’s the Outrage?

February 24, 2012 To read this column on The Huffington Post, go to:  http://huff.to/whkIBO. Imagine for a moment that David Brock, founder of the watchdog organization Media Matters, was African American or Asian or Jewish or…

Children Are the Winnners When We Replace Stigma With Best Practices for Gay and Lesbian Parents

November 21, 2011 News flash: Today, in every state in America, gay fathers and lesbian mothers are raising children. For a range of reasons, not everyone in our country likes or wants to accept this reality,…

From Steve Jobs to Kids in Foster Care: Lessons During National Adoption Month

October 31, 2011 To read this column on The Huffington Post, go to: http://huff.to/v7WTPf. With seemingly ceaseless regularity nowadays, most recently in the coverage of Steve Jobs’ passing, we are inundated by conflicting messages relating to…

When Independence is a Problem

July 26, 2011 Just a few weeks ago, on the 4th of July, America again celebrated its independence. The very word “independence” evokes positive images and sentiments worthy of celebration: the freedom to be who one…

The Critical Role of the Media in Shaping Attitudes

June 30, 2011 A lot of people in my world – that’s the one in which words like “adoption,” “foster care,” “orphan,” “search and reunion,” and “birth/first parents” are used almost every day – wonder why…