Profile: Renette Oklewicz


We are honored to profile Renette Oklewicz, long-time Director of Programs at the Freddie Mac Foundation, for her significant contributions to the adoption and foster care communities. Renette, who has dedicated her career to the service of children and families, has been instrumental to DAI’s mission to enhance the lives of everyone touched by adoption. Through her efforts at Freddie Mac, she has helped to fund some of DAI’s greatest work, including our Adoption Support and Preservation Initiative – also known as “Keeping the Promise”. As the Freddie Mac Foundation closes its doors at the end of this year, we were thrilled to learn more about the woman behind so many meaningful advancements in the adoption and foster care field.


1. Choosing a nonprofit career instead of the corporate track still isn’t very common. What brought you into philanthropy? How long have you been working in the field?

I began my career as a child welfare social worker working with foster children. I followed that career for 10 years before I landed my job at Freddie Mac in their community relations department. It was during my first few years there that Freddie Mac decided to create a foundation with a focus on disadvantaged children. With my experience in foster care, I was asked to assist in developing the direction of the Freddie Mac Foundation and became its first program officer. I have remained at the Foundation for the past 23 years and would still be there today, if it were not closing its doors. Prior to that I worked in the child welfare field for 10 years.

2. You have helped so many children and families through your work. What inspired you to become invested in the area of adoption and foster care?

Having spent the early years of my career in the child welfare field, I have always had a deep-seated desire to help abused and neglected children. With the Foundation’s focus on permanency for foster children, I was uniquely positioned to continue my work on their behalf. This experience has been made particularly rewarding because I have had the opportunity to work with incredibly smart and committed professionals in the nonprofit sector.

3. What were some of the challenging issues you discovered through your work?

What I found challenging was working with public child welfare agencies. Unlike the private nonprofit sector, they rarely sought foundation funding to assist them in their efforts to help children in foster care. It almost seemed as if a request for external funding meant failure on their part to carry out their mandated responsibility. If an outside funder had to help them do their work, then that would mean that their state or county was not meeting the needs of the children.

4. If you had a magic wand, what is one thing you could change about adoption and foster care?

It is very difficult to choose just one thing. I have found that the life trajectory of a child in foster care is far too often determined by the skills, attitude and creativity of their social worker and/or the culture and resources of the agency. The outcomes for a child in care should never be so random or unpredictable. I would insist that every agency head and child welfare worker be held accountable through their job performance for each and every child’s well-being in their care, including those who exit the system as well. Each employee would have job measures tied directly to the outcomes of the youth in their care, i.e. school performance, health and mental health care, preparation for independence, etc., and they would receive promotions and salary increases accordingly, which is what the private sector calls “pay for performance.” I would make sure performance objectives were clear and attainable and that each employee had the resources, including skilled supervision, they needed to attain them. I would also pay them a salary commensurate with the responsibilities of their jobs, which means, in most localities, they would be paid far more than they are right now.

5. Good or bad, has there been something that has really surprised you in the work you encountered?

One thing that I have found surprising and disappointing is the reluctance of foundations to support advocacy efforts. Funders are much more inclined to support direct services that may impact a targeted slice of the population than to fund public awareness and education projects that have the potential to impact thousands, if not millions, of people across the country. Educating policy makers and practitioners about best practices is something that I have always believed goes hand-in-hand with funding direct services. A single policy at the state or national level has the potential to improve the outcomes of thousands of people in need. Consider the plight of children in foster care who are totally dependent upon the government to meet their needs. If the government’s policies and practices are not as effective as they need to be then the outcomes for those children will suffer. The Donaldson Adoption Institute’s efforts to promote much needed post adoption support are a good example of why funding education and advocacy are critical to improving life outcomes for adoptive children and their families. This becomes even more essential when the condition of the very population needing help is cloaked in the government’s confidentiality policies.

6. Considering your time at the Freddie Mac Foundation, is there an accomplishment you are most proud of?

If I had to pick one that stands out from all of the rest, it would be National Adoption Day (NAD) because of where it started and how far it has come. In 2000, our Foundation was one of the original funders of National Adoption Day, which is based on Adoption Saturday in Los Angeles, the brainchild of the Alliance for Children’s Rights, a local nonprofit. Adoption Saturday was created to facilitate adoption finalizations that had become backlogged in the county. The idea was to bring all of the family court judges into the courtroom one Saturday a month to process the finalizations. The day became a celebration of adoptions with balloons, clowns, food and other festivities. The day drew significant media attention raising awareness about the thousands of foster children in need of adoption. The Alliance for Children’s Rights decided to promote the idea across the country by establishing one day in November (National Adoption Month) and encouraging other communities to follow the model that had been created in Los Angeles. Their plan was funded by our Foundation and the Dave Thomas Foundation for Adoption. When I took over management of the grant in 2001, we were the only funder remaining and the celebrations had only grown to 18 in a handful of states. I saw the incredible potential that NAD had to raise awareness but knew that it could never become recognized as a national day of celebration and spread across the country unless other adoption advocates and funders came to the table. By inviting other partners, we were able to garner more attention, resources and talents to grow the idea on a larger scale. We set out the goal of having at least one celebration in each state and created and implemented a plan to get there. Within a few years our goal was reached. In 2013 there were over 400 NAD celebrations in all 50 states and, since the launch of the event, more than 55,000 adoptions have been finalized on this special day. Most importantly, over the past 14 years, NAD has attracted millions of dollars in free print and broadcast media coverage, all focused on the blessings of adoption and the need for more families to open their hearts and homes to foster children waiting for their forever family.

7. What is the most important lesson you learned doing the work you have done with Freddie Mac?

One lesson that I learned early on is that a collaborative effort, regardless of how difficult those are to build and sustain, is far more effective than a singular person or organization attempting to find a resolution to a human need or cause. By bringing together a group of brilliant and creative minds to address a problem, the result will be a far more effective and sustainable solution. The collaboration needs to engage a variety of voices, including people from the business, faith, public and philanthropic sectors.

8. You’ve been invaluable to helping organizations, like DAI, better the lives of everyone in the adoption and foster care community. If you could positively change the public’s attitudes toward adoption and foster care by telling them one thing, what would it be?

I think the general opinion is that children in foster care are receiving the resources, help and support they need because the government is fully responsible for them. Nothing could be further from the truth. The system and the children it serves need the talents, creativity and resources of the community, funders and corporations because the system does not have sufficient resources and often the know-how to give these children and youth what they desperately need. The private sector provides these kinds of resources to nonprofits but rarely to government agencies. Child welfare agencies are reluctant to seek outside resources or help, but, if they did, the outcomes for the children in their care would be far more positive. The one thing I would tell the public is that they need to find a way, as difficult as it may be, to get involved because they can make a huge difference in the life of a foster child. Becoming a CASA volunteer or a foster or adoptive parent are all excellent opportunities to do just that.

9. Freddie Mac has been instrumental helping our organization fulfill its mission and we are so grateful. Sadly, it will be closing its doors at the end of this year. What’s next for you?

I am taking some time off and then will explore the possibility of consulting. I am looking to pursue a few volunteer opportunities as well. I have found working in the nonprofit sector to be both rewarding and inspiring which is why I want to continue to contribute my skills and experience to the important work they are doing.

Thanks to Renette for sharing her story! Be sure to check out a new adoption spotlight profile in our next Newsletter.


Summer has always been my favorite time of year; the warmth of the sun, longer days and the beach! I did not think it was possible to love summer any more than I already did and then (about 10 years ago), I attended my very first NACAC conference. As an adopted person being surrounded (for the first time) by dedicated adoption community members and professionals that came together to share knowledge, ideas and experiences all to help bring about reform for foster care and adoption was a breakthrough moment.

NACAC never disappoints and again, attendees were offered vital information coupled the gift of camaraderie and connectivity with colleagues and friends. This year’s theme was Permanency Matters: A Family for Growing Up and Growing Old and the workshops and general sessions offered meaningful content as well as opportunities for reflection and inspiration.

What I love about presenting and attending workshops at NACAC is the spirit in which we all engage. It always feels like such a safe environment in which we are all encouraged to share experiences and ask the tough questions. In the 10 years I have been attending it is rare to attend a workshop that does not include a rich dialogue. This does not mean everyone always agrees but there is a general essence of respect even as we explore more challenging elements of our work. Here are just a few highlights.

It is always challenging to decide which workshops to attend but I made a point to get to Joe Kroll (NACAC Executive Director) and Dr. Ruth McRoy’s (DAI Board Member and Senior Fellow) workshop entitled: Data Informed Child Advocacy. Together Joe and Ruth have decades of experience, knowledge and insight. While delivering critical data and methods for calculating de-link savings by state they also reinforced that data alone is not the answer. Driving advocacy requires a delicate balance of data coupled with personal narratives and a willingness to be steadfast in the pursuit of change on behalf of children and families.

In March, after nearly 40 years of involvement with NACAC, Joe Kroll will step down as Executive Director of NACAC. I know we will see Joe at many more NACAC conferences and the legacy of his leadership, commitment and all-around good energy will continue!

DAI’s very own Ruth McRoy was honored as one of NACAC’s Child Advocates of the year. Ruth (along with Ada White and Youth Advocate of the Year, Claudia Felder) received her award and recognition at the closing luncheon. Ruth’s dedication and commitment to the study of foster care and adoption is truly awesome and her contributions to the field and community are immense.

Last but certainly not least, the youth panel moderated by Nathan Ross, head of NACAC’s Community Champions Network was a poignant highlight. The youth panel is always one of my personal favorites and is generally the most meaningful and emotional. Nathan along with the panelists made hundreds of us feel as if we were all sitting in a living room together as opposed to a huge auditorium. Hearing their extremely personal experiences was a gift for us all to cherish and use as inspiration to do better and ensure that every child has a family for growing and growing old!

This recap only scratches the surface and I am already looking forward to next year in Long Beach, CA!

Four Key Pillars Drive The Donaldson Adoption Institute’s New Vision

Dear Friends,

Early in 2013, The Donaldson Adoption Institute Board of Directors made the commitment to expand the reach and impact of our work and adopted a plan for growth. In October of that year, I joined the team as Chief Executive. With so many changes happening within our community and with us, we thought it would be helpful to share some important updates.

Since 1996, the Donaldson Adoption Institute has utilized a unique “activist think tank” model to research, advocate and educate legislators, journalists, educators, mental-health and child-welfare professionals and the general public on the issues of greatest interest to the adoption and foster care communities.

Building on and honoring DAI’s legacy of research, education and advocacy that was built by so many, including my predecessor Adam Pertman, will be critical as we set a new and inspired path forward. With a clear and strategic focus we will continue to uncover and amplify opportunities to encourage adoption reform and practically meet the needs of our ever-evolving community and the professionals that serve it.

We have brought our new vision to life launching our new website and quarterly newsletter. Both of these enhanced tools allow for more engagement and the opportunity to deliver dynamic research and content. In addition, a focused foundation for growth is being set within DAI’s four pillars: The Adoption Experience, Foster Care Adoption, Adoption Support Services and The Modern Family.

The Adoption Experience
Focusing on the entire adoption community (first/birth parents, adopted people, adoptive parents and extended families of all), DAI works to improve the adoption experience and strengthen families by promoting healthy identity in adopted people, safeguarding the rights of parents (expectant, first/birth and adoptive) and educating practitioners, professionals and policy makers.

Foster Care Adoption
DAI’s targeted research and advocacy helps to ensure the most vulnerable children and families receive the timely attention and quality support they deserve as they navigate the system.

Adoption Support Services
“Re-homing” serves as the most recent and disturbing example of what can happen when children and families are not properly prepared and supported before, during and for many years following an adoption. DAI works to increase access to quality pre and post-adoption education and training to ensure the wellbeing of individuals and families.

The Modern Family
The landscape of American family life is rapidly changing. Nowhere are these changes being felt more strongly and directly than in the areas of adoption, foster care and assisted reproductive technology. DAI encourages the acceptance of diverse families and believes that all families can benefit from quality support.

With the four pillars in place, we have our work cut out for us and we accept the challenge to continue to engage in the substantive and important work to improve the lives of children and families.

On behalf of the Board of Directors and the entire DAI family, we wish to express our deep gratitude to Adam Pertman for his dedication to DAI, the adoption community and professionals in the field. We wish Adam well in his future endeavors. Adam will now be known as “Executive Director Emeritus” in recognition of his years of service.

Stay tuned for our next newsletter which will focus on our Adoption Support Services pillar arriving in your inboxes the last week of July.


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April Dinwoodie
Chief Executive

Search and Reunion Research Survey

Much recent media coverage has centered on adoptees gaining the right to access their original birth certificates. From New Jersey’s decades long effort to achieve legal equality for adoptees to Colorado’s ambitious legislation allowing birth parents access to relinquishment documents, the adoption community is finally receiving the same rights as non-adoption related citizens. Giving adoptees and their first/birthparents the opportunity to discover their history and legacy is long overdue.

Though these are landmark achievements, people who have undergone the search and reunion process know accessing original documents is just the start of a challenging journey to discover their roots. Finding children, parents, and extended family can be an exhilarating and delicate course that often proves emotional, trying, and exhausting on the way to finding identity. It should be no surprise that the more guidance one has in discovering his/her roots, the less painful and more enriching the journey can be. Anything that can be done to prepare parents and children for the unexpected turns when finding family, the better experience they will have.

Learning more about the current adoption search and reunion practices is essential to bettering the lives of everyone touched by adoption We are excited DAI Senior Research Fellow Amanda Baden and researchers from Montclair State University are collaborating with us to understand adoption practitioners’ efforts in this area. The goal of this IRB-approved study on adoption treatment is to increase our knowledge of the current practices among adoption professionals and other search facilitators in assisting search and reunion efforts between adopted persons and first/birth families.

In order to conduct this important work, we need your help. We are looking for participants who are adoption professionals and adoption search facilitators to fill out a brief survey concerning search and reunion work. Specifically we are seeking participants who work in any capacity in assisting with facilitating birth parent/first parent-adoptee searches and reunions or root tracings. This can include therapists, psychologists, counselors, social workers, lawyers, search angels, adoption agency and child welfare organization employees, etc.

Your insight into the current status of adoption search practices will improve professional training and develop more effective services for the adoption kinship network. This examination will improve research, preparation, and policies surrounding adoption and profoundly shape adoption professionals’ practices towards the various clients they serve. If you can, we entreat you to participate in this survey.

The Upside of the CHIFF Debate

On Monday, May 19, the Donaldson Adoption Institute (DAI) sent a letter providing our input on The Children in Families First Act of 2013 (CHIFF/S1530) to the Senate Foreign Relations Committee, Senate sponsors, other key Members and the Secretary of State.

Along with many of our friends and partners in the adoption and child welfare communities, we have recognized that CHIFF is concerning on many levels. As our letter states, DAI supports CHIFF’s laudable goals: – to place children without families in them, to make intercountry adoption (ICA) by Americans “a viable and fully developed option,” and to “protect against abuses” and ensure children’s best interests in ICA. The unfortunate reality, however, is that S1530 was conceived with only limited stakeholder input and without all of the relevant research and data. As a result, it oversimplifies the complex and multi-layered challenges and possible solutions related to international child welfare and ICA. CHIFF could dilute safeguards, undermine the best interests of the child standard and encourage unethical practices. It also would not assign adequate resources for improving child welfare policy and practice.

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